Language language: how men relate to cunnilingus.
Technically, cunnilingus is just one of the species to give pleasure to the partner, only with the help of tongue and lips, and not hands, penis or various sex toys. However, the attitude towards it is quite biased, and the topic can be included in the list of taboo in a decent society (especially in the CIS countries).
According to surveys conducted in America and Europe, more than 64% of the male population belongs positively to cunnilingus, about 30% are neutral and/or have certain “fads” – requirements for a partner;less than 6% categorically against. If you believe the numbers received during sociological research in the CIS countries, the situation is much sadder. So, negatively tuned men are about 15%, and positively – only 47%;the rest are neutral or cannot decide.
Club of Kunnilingus lovers
Here are some of the most common reasons why men give pleasure in this way and can enjoy the process themselves:
- Sincere emotions to a woman: love, passion, respect that Kuni turn into a pleasant action. Most of the respondents admitted that they are afraid to make cunnilingus in the early stages of relations due to uncertainty in their skills. In turn, girls admit that they consider this type of oral sex more intimate, so they do not begin to practice immediately. But the stronger the emotions of the pair become, the easier it is for both partners to liberate and enjoy cunnilingus mutually.
- A little selfish desire to access the body, win a woman. Many representatives of the fair sex are not indifferent to oral caresses, and self -confident men can resort to even such pleasant tricks.
- “An eye for an eye” – Many men have blowjob and cunnilingus in the same positions in importance. Therefore, if a partner is ready to give pleasure, then he, of course, will satisfy her desire.
Cunnilingus is a great way to diversify and add a little sharpness to sexual life. In addition, such oral caresses are great as a prelude.
Neither fish nor meat – why many are indifferent to cunnilingus
The most common reason for which men speak of their indifference or negative attitude towards cunnilingus is The presence of negative experience. Nevertheless, if every girl who does not even possess special skills can do a blowjob, then with Cooney the situation is much more serious. In the absence of complete confidence between partners and discussions of failure, a man begins to arise negative associations that prevent him from liberating in the future. Unfortunately, for solving such cases, sometimes you can not do without a sexopathologist or psychotherapist.
Another reason for the lack of a special desire to make kuni is associated with tactile sensations. Many men admit that they are ready to satisfy the partner orally only if she has There will be no extra vegetation or neat intimate haircut. In such situations, everything is easily solved by frank conversations in pairs and observing intimate hygiene.
Why men are against?
They do not argue about tastes, but more and more doctors say that blowjob and cunnilingus are natural types of sex necessary for conducting healthy sexual life. At the same time, in our society it is customary to talk only about the pleasing of a woman a man, and make silent about oral affection for the fair sex. This is directly related to the patriarchal type of society in which we live, and the values that were laid, if not in our generation, then exactly in the previous one. Men often grow up with egoists who believe that a woman should serve him both in everyday life and in bed, and cunnilingus is humiliating and nobody needs.
You can also add a special upbringing here, in which it is shameful to talk about sex, but they need to do it under the blanket when the light turned off. It is not surprising that the figures of our polls are significantly different from European countries and America – the question in the mentality and what parents put in children’s heads. Among those answering questions about Kuni are negatively, a large percentage of older men, or never practicing guys who heard bad friends from more experienced friends.
It is no less sad when a man deeply accepts the unsuccessful attempt of Cooney and cannot trust a partner. It can be both fear of seemingly inexperienced and inept, as well as the fear of the process itself, “close contact” with the female genital organs, and so on. In this case, the pair must be consulted for advice to a specialist.
I want to complete the topic on positive. For twenty men who have an active sex life, have a regular partner and/or beloved women, only one expresses a negative attitude towards cunnilingus. This once again recalls that you need not to be afraid to talk about your desires, and if there are some fears or complexes-voice them.