Premature ejaculation – causes and effects.
Regardless of what we call it – premature ejaculation, early or fast ejaculation, fast feed, speed, descent of happiness or quick descent – all this means one and the same thing: just an orgasm on too fast. But the question arises: too fast for whom? For a man? For woman? For both? What is too fast? Five minutes? Five shocks? One? Even before the input? Well, of course, if a man hopes for intercourse and ends without even introducing a member, we can say with confidence that this is premature ejaculation.
What can be called premature ejaculation?
As a rule, this concept is determined by the partners themselves and the criterion is established by a man: when he ends quickly and without control, faster than he would like, that is, so that sex does not satisfy either both partners or one of them. For some couples, three minutes of quick and fierce sex is quite normal, while others need their sex to last at least twenty minutes. The average time of sex for an average pair is different depending on their capabilities, mood and situation. If a man can delay ejaculation, but does not continue sexual intercourse for a long time, then he does not have a problem, and if he regularly finishes, without controlling this process, then the problem exists.
Single cases are not a cause for concern. They do not say that the man has lost the ability to control ejaculation. Many men under certain conditions may have a quick ejaculation. But if quick uncontrolled ejaculations become a system, a problem arises, known as “premature ejaculation syndrome”. Fortunately, for men and women, there are simple ways to solve it.
The reasons for premature ejaculation
There are many reasons why men lose (or never use) control over ejaculation, which is why it occurs too quickly. These causes can be both physiological and psychological;They can be due to a specific situation or formed for many years. Sometimes the reason for this ailment that prevents the control of the ejaculatory process in a man is its masturbation in childhood and adolescence. If the boy masturbated in his room or bathroom and was always afraid that he would be found behind this occupation, he could have gained a habit of “quick masturbation”: the goal is to end as quickly as possible. In boys and boys, this is not considered a problem, since usually at this age they very quickly reach an erection and orgasm. They do not understand that with age this reaction to sexual excitement will slow down. Therefore, when they consider erotic magazines or wash in the shower, they can quickly finish several times in a row and at the same time receive more and more frequent orgasms. If the boy continues to masturbate in this way, he does not try and will never learn to control ejaculation, since his goal comes down to achieve orgasm as quickly as possible. This habit is more fixed in those men who participated in the group sessions of masturbation in their youth. At such sessions, boys get together and masturbate “for speed”. These competitions actually mean that their winner, who came to the finish line first, ultimately turned out to be a loser: the more he trained to finish the faster of all, the more likely it is that he will have problems with the control of ejaculation in the future.
These boys from the team of quick masturbation relate to those who will never study the phases of their sexual excitement and reaction to it will not understand how these phases can be controlled, slowing down the onset of orgasm with severe stimulation during sex. And when sexual relations with a partner begins, she can subconsciously stimulate their rapid onset of orgasm, even without any sexual actions. Quick teenage sex in the rear seat of the car before the parents’ arrival is the last bar of the harmful consequences of quick masturbation. As a result, the whole approach of such men comes to sex only to one thing: get ready, aim, PLA, then as it should be: Get ready, aim, have sex and only after a certain time – plow !!!!
Conditions contributing to premature ejaculation
There are a number of physiological conditions that contribute to premature ejaculation. Most reasons are psychological in nature. However, a physiological reaction to sexual stimulation in the form of orgasm and ejaculation can also occur faster than necessary, in cases where, for example, a man suffers from inflammatory diseases of the genital region or infections of the urethra. The pain and high sensitivity of this area can cause quick orgasms. Rapid ejaculation can also be observed with prostate anomalies. Less commonly, the reason for accelerating the onset of orgasm, when it occurs faster than the man would like, is the supersensitivity of the penis or the supercultural muscles of the pelvic belt (these are muscles that are reduced during orgasm). If you think that your problem can be caused by one of these physiological reasons, consult a doctor. But since, as a rule, the cause of premature ejaculation is not in physiology, the doctor will most likely advise you to contact a sexologist or to the nearest bookstore.
If any events that cause stress, anxiety, grief, etc. occur in your life. D., This will necessarily affect your sexual life. For many men, such circumstances can cause quick ejaculation. Men who have an emotional experience of stress below the belt may not notice any deviations until this affects their sexual function and will not become a clear problem.
Here are some of the psychological causes of premature ejaculation:
- depression;
- financial difficulties;
- stress caused by problems in personal relationships or at work;
- unsuccessful sexual experience;
- fear of failure;
- fear that someone will enter;
- fear of pregnancy;
- irritation and other negative emotions;
- Excessively strong excitement;
- Long lack of sex.
Despite the variety of reasons, the most common are the consequences of stress and fear of failure. Stress can affect the control of ejaculation in any period of a man’s life. Fear of failure, as a rule, takes place at the beginning of the relationship, when the guy wants to impress the girl and is concerned that in case of failure he will be very ashamed or it will be at all the most terrible nightmare in life. If you systematically suffer from premature ejaculation, the first step in solving this problem will be to determine its cause. You can do this either yourself or using a sexologist. If you suffer from this problem for a long time or if it has worsened, you probably need several visits to sexologist. If you think that you are able to independently determine the cause of the rapid ejaculation, install it when you happened for the first time and why. Then you can direct your efforts to eliminate the problem by eliminating the causes that has generated it (for example, relieve stress) and the use of special methods in order to learn how to slow down the onset of ejaculation and control it.
What are the consequences of premature ejaculation
This problem can cause a serious blow to a man’s self -esteem. Men are always proud of their endurance and strength, so a man suffering from this syndrome feels less courageous and less strong.
As a result, a man, brought to despair to unsuccessful attempts to solve the problem and embarrassed to talk about it with anyone else, resorts to “grandmother” useless advice. But such advice “Make yourself” usually does not work or help for a short while. And when this happens, the man falls doubly. In order to avoid all this terrible commotion, a man with premature ejaculation syndrome, along with his member, should immediately go to the therapist, sexologist, psychologist, sex massacre, or at least study the information below. If you want to really solve the problem, you should use the correct, tested and proven methods.
One of the useless tips is that if you quickly end, you need to do it as often as possible. Such a “advice” does not eliminate the cause of the problem, it only masks it. In order to really solve the problem of premature ejaculation once and for all, it is necessary to eliminate its cause, and not just reduce the sensitivity of the penis. Correct methods are based on the study of possible causes, most often psychological. You should not use the tips that contradict the development of your sexual abilities, simply masking your problem, and not eliminating it.
Common erroneous ideas about the prevention of premature ejaculation
- use two condoms to reduce the sensitivity of the penis;
- Apply a local desensitizing cream for the same purpose (keep in mind that in this case sensitivity is reduced not only with you, but also!);
- During sex, focus on something else, for example, recall sports news;
- Mentally read obverse mantras, like “do not finish, do not finish, do not finish”)));
- pray)));
- squeeze the buttocks;
- bite your lip to distract;
- Masturbate more often;
- make hormonal injections;
- use Viagra (this will help you strengthen the erection, but
will not solve the problem of premature ejaculation); - use alcohol (having drunk, you can slow down the onset of ejaculation at a time, but no more, and of course, you won’t become a good lover);
- use rings for a member, erection tapes and other little things. These devices to strengthen an erection can suppress the impulse to ejaculation for a short time, but they do not solve the problem. In addition, they must be used each time, which more often interferes than helps;
- Take drugs and tablets to maintain an erection. Many doctors argue that the reason for the rapid ejaculation is physiological, not psychological, and approve of the use of some drugs sold at a fabulous price, which, in their opinion, help you control the onset of ejaculation. The use of most of these drugs does not have an exhaustive scientific conclusion and will not help solve the problem of premature ejaculation. Be an informed consumer: beware of dubious products.