BDSM for dummies: history, paraphernalia, practice.
With the word BDSM, each person has a certain picture in his head. Some see latex costumes on the whole body, others see the ruling women with whips in their hands, others fantasize unthinkable perversions.
In general, all this has its own fraction of the truth, but people forget that BDSM, first of all, is a world without frames and complexes, a way to get rid of boiling aggression, get away from their problems and reveal new boundaries of their capabilities.
Let’s probably start from the very beginning. If we consider from a physiological point of view, then the BDSM is based on an increase in sexual excitement in humans and his pleasure by violating generally accepted taboos, as well as certain physical influences. Well, BDSM is not always based on sex, you can have fun outside of sexual actions, t.e. self -sufficient.
Many consider the BDSM violence, but the guys have strict conditional and not very SSC framework (the generally accepted abbreviation “Safe, Sane, Consensual” – “Safe, Sane, agreed”). For example, each participants come up with a stop-word or action, when pronouncing which you can stop the game at any time.
The BDSM abbreviation itself appeared in the early 90s, and denotes the main components of this movement:
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BD (Bondage \ Discipline – Bondage, Education)
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DS (Domination \ Submission – Domination, submission)
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SM (Sadism \ Masochism – Sadism, Masochism)
A little story:
As always, history goes into the distant past. In ancient Greece, flogging of young boys was carried out socially, and moreover, right near the altar of Artemis. And the ancient residents of Tuscany depicted men who tear the woman with sticks during love games.
But, of course, the first official references to BDSM culture are the works of the Marquis de Sad. Where, in fact, the first phenomena of sadism were described (hence the name “Sadism” came from here). Leopold von Zaher-Mazokh came to support de Garden with his torn templates by the “Venus in fur” work.
Despite the fact that famous authors gave us such words as “sadism” and “masochism”, their philosophy was far from modern BDSM culture. In their works, de Sad and Mazokh described rather life situations that are completely far from game submission and dominance. In its current form, the BDSM set appeared at the turn of the 19-20th century, and was more likely a view of an erotic game than the philosophy of de Sad and Mazokh.
Well, then everything rushed at a huge speed: books, graphic works began to appear. In the 50s in Japan and the USA there were already photographs on BDSM Tematic. Everyone knows the beauty Betty Page – which has become a symbol of Pin -Apa and erotica of that time.
The most loud boom in the public in the framework of the BDSM-File, the emergence of organizations “Old Guard Leather” and “Samois” .
“Old Guard Leather” is a closed club of homosexuals of the military who returned after the end of World War II.
“Samois” is an organization of the same type, only founded by lesbians -feminists.
And, of course, the BDSM culture reached the peak of its popularity thanks to the invention of the Internet. Various portals, blogs, Internet magazines have made the theme of the fetish accessible to everyone.
A little about toys and practice itself
The first thing that comes to my mind personally, with the word BDSM, is a bondage. And these are not only ropes! Bonds include binding and constraining with various handcuffs and latches, and even a room in a cage.
A very popular practice is Shibari – Japanese culture of binding ropes. Bondage – is considered the most dangerous practice, you can inflict serious injuries to your partner! So be careful, feel and listen to each other. And don’t forget about the stop-word!
Role Games – an integral part of BDSM culture. Only your fantasy can limit you here. Basically, these are games for “dominance-subordination”. Madam and her slave, the owner and his dog, an evil teacher and a little schoolgirl. All this perfectly complement leashes, collars, gags, sexual latex costumes, masks and dressings. After all, a game without a suit is just funny to think even!)
Separate practice is a flageling. It is a flogging of a subordinate partner with various whips, plumbles, rods, stacks. Good practice for just starting BDSM practitioners.
There is fisting for experienced lovers. Well, I think, there is not even an explanation here. If you are interested, or you want to try for a long time, then we have a whole section that will help you start this difficult journey.
Well, in general, you can list it endlessly: strangulation, foot-physha, golden rain, suspension, cargo to nipples and genitals, electric stimulants, medical fetish. Everyone can find a suitable way to clean energy, only by trial and error, of course.
The world of BDSM is a world of non -triviality and infinity. It is not necessary to immediately jump into the pool with your head. A little bit, quietly, without sudden movements. Try what attracts most! And if the first experience does not pass successfully, this is not radical.
Try again! And when this “heavy sigh” will turn out after a stormy and passionate game, you have achieved the right result. You yourself will notice how everything has become easier in everyday life, relations with a partner were smoothed out, and the mood ceased to change through trifles.
If you already imagine your first game, or if my article did not tell you anything new, t.To. You are an experienced representative of BDSM-Files, then look at us in the Sado-Mazo and Fetish section, there are a lot of interesting things there 🙂